Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.
Maya Angelou
(1928)
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.
Anatole France
(1844-1924)
Look at every path closely and deliberately, then ask yourself this crucial question: Does this path have a heart? If it does, then the path is good. If it doesn't, it is of no use.
Carlos Castaneda
(1925-1998)
If the path be beautiful, let us not ask where it leads.
Anatole France
(1844-1924)
I see my path, but I don't know where it leads.
Not knowing where I'm going is what inspires me to travel it.
Rosalia de Castro
(1837-1885)
Be brave. Live consciously.
me to me
(every day)
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Just gently reminding myself that it's natural and okay for it to feel a bit uncomfortable sometimes... 'cause change is like that, even when it's for the good. And not knowing exactly where I'm going is better than staying where I know I don't want to be.
How do you ease yourself through the discomfort of change?
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25 comments:
long, hot baths. LOTS of them! a lot of deep breathing too.
and yes...the "one day at a time" method works well for me too.
DRUGS would be my first choice but I don't do drugs well- am really bad at it- so I guess second choice for adjusting to change would be loads of pudding. Peanuts sometimes help because of the shelling action- shell-reward- get another repetition- mindlessness...Change is usually welcomed unless it is a not- by -choice- ugly -change. That is difficult! Your change strikes me as being welcomed and do-able and fun! New stuff! YAY! New spirit! The changes I have dealt with this year have been the not so good kind- I am fat from peanuts and puddings but have finally achieved some measure of adjustment. takes a while and now I have to concentrate on losing peanut fat- always something! You will do well, dear Kendalee- because you are just that way- always stellar in the doing well department. Cheers!
What wise words--and ones I should try to keep in mind as I prepare to move back to my old home and start a new life there.
What helps? Anything that stops me from over-thinking.
Art and more art, or sleep and more sleep. Lovely picture! Change is hard but well worth it I think!
This world's falling-apart-economy has put a lot of people on paths they did not expect. Some of my children are not in the homes they expected to raise their families in because employers could no longer provide jobs. Comfort zones are getting harder and harder to find.
I hope your new place and new path becomes comfortable and friendly soon so you will have a place where you can breathe deep and relax.
Remember the Zen story about "this too shall pass"? I remind myself of that often. It will only be new and uncomfortable for a short time, and we can manage anything for a short time...because...it too shall pass.
Now...on to the adventure!
What beautiful words and all of the quotes are so inspiring. This post happens to be just what I needed to hear. Thank you!
Hot baths do help, reading books, and talking with a good friend seem to help me.
I read every quote slowly and loved every one of them. This really spoke to me. Thank you.
Wishing you all of the peace in the world as you embark on something new.
What a lovely way to look at it...I just keep looking forward, it's easier not to trip that way...
Change is not easy, but it is usually good! Remembering that it is a process and not being alarmed when it doesn't all feel like paradise is the best way to progress through it!
For me, riding the rocky spaces is just that, riding them -- which can look like a walk in the woods, or grabbing a cup of coffee at my favorite place, or even eating a piece of good chocolate in between the crying jags or bone weary blue spots. But most of all, in the back of my mind I keep an absolute, unwavering faith that everything is as it should be and that I will be through it and on the other side and onto the next thing in, really, a blink of the eye in the grand scale of things. I am excited to see what emerges for you in your new place and new home Kendalee!
this post brought tears to my eyes. i love that so often i come here and you post exactly what i need to read. beautiful you.
so that's what i do in transition: seek comfort in kindred souls who are in the same space.
I love these quotes Kenda, all of them. To answer your question though, the way I ease the discomfort of change is something along the lines of the final quote you've included- the one to you from you. I do a lot of self soothing, I talk myself through with reassuring affirmations. Those kinds of changes usually pay off in a BIG way. Wishing you happiness and adventure!
Cocooning, art, books and chocolate truffles and chatting to a friend who has been through similar changes. Wishing you an easy passage, dear Kendalee.
I think of you! Knowing that whatever changes I'm going through you will be there no matter what. Advising me from the heart because you know me from there and then nothing seems so bad because at the end of it - you are there and that never changes. This is a good change and it will get better as time to adjust passes. The adjusting is hardest, not the change, it will enrich your life in so many ways. Know that I am here too and that will NEVER change! Love you, xxx
Art Therapy!
Time to set up the easel-unpack the paints and brushes and get lost in the canvas. And,how great is it that you don't have to put everything away every time! You'll have your walls covered in masterpieces in no time.
Or, maybe it's time for something new? What about that sewing machine you have talked about- you could make some new cushion covers or curtains for the place?
A new creative project always works for me.
I cope with change hand in hand with someone I love; if it can't be a partner, then make it family, friend, classmate, blog-buddy, colleague or even a pet. It's important to me not to feel too alone at times of upheaval although I do need to have a liberal sprinkling of solitude at all times. As usual, I enjoy reading the comments from your other readers almost as much as your own and the well chosen passages of inspiration.
I usually throw a tantrum - then follow up with a lot of chocolate.
Hope you are okay - thinking of you, even when you don't hear from me!!
quiet escape in a nap.
By not thinking about it too much. I have always considered myself to be quite adaptable to changing circumstances (maybe it is just laziness...?) But no, when I think now of all the changes I've made in my life, I have never thought too much about where a new path would lead me. If I had, I would not have done many of the things I did. My life would have been different. And as I am very happy with my life, it must have been a good thing that I didn't think too much!
constant reminders to be brave. always works.
oh, i love all the quotes & espec. the one about asking if a path has heart! i suppose in the transition, taking the time to breathe into & SEE the heart on the path, to see YOU are still here, & try to rest as much as possible because if you're anything like me, i always feel more centered & stronger when less tired! lol.
Just stay with yourself dearest. You'll find steady grounds again soon. Lift your head and take deep breaths of air into your lungs.
You'll be fine when you find some time to walk into paths like in the picture.
Thinking of you. Dagmar
That has been my mantra for the last few years.....it is the only way to approach anything. best, susan
i wrote all the quotes down in a tiny notebook because i am so in need of all of them.
your words are always timely for me. may you find a richer part of yourself in the changes you are adjusting to and the ones yet to come.
xoxo, graciel
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